I recollected incidences where our own mothers, or if you like, to be precise, the “Sengas” who tell girls about to be married that it is not right to deny your husband sex, you know you must respect your husband, your husband is always your first born. I had never reflected deeply on such culturally constructed statements. And well, that is a time I started re-learning and questioning what is right and wrong, what is natural and not?
I learnt that, it is only natural for a woman to become pregnant, give birth, and breast feed. As for a man, there is nothing natural or supernatural about him. If you consider washing plates, cooking, raising children etc natural for a woman, what makes men or boys natural is only doing what women are doing. In my experience as a young leader, it is important, henceforth for even us as women to realize that we make the world real, and perhaps that is why some selfish men keep oppressing such innocent girls. We are much more than, society sees in us!
I UNLEARNT a few beliefs that streamlined men, as “heads” of families, powerful, name it. Because there are single mothers, and yes, many are powerful women out there, whose work has been shelved and hidden. Is this what public –private dichotomy does? After the 5 days of intensive study, group work, and oh, selfcare, I learnt that, there is nothing about men, without women. Male supremacy is just artificial; JUST LIKE make-up. It can be washed or sweated away!